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Todd Shandelman's avatar

Thank you! For me, that's much more relatable. :-)

It's interesting how reducing something to just its abstract sometimes renders it more concrete.

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Rabbi Jack Cohen's avatar

I agree with you and appreciate the exercise. This is probably what I should do with every post — turn it into a note.

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Todd Shandelman's avatar

That's too complicated. Is there a simplified version?

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Rabbi Jack Cohen's avatar

Sure.

People are fundamentally alone, which is why the Hebrew words איש and אשה, man and woman, respectively, have no plural versions of themselves. This spiritual condition makes dating and marriage challenging.

The goal however was never to lose our identities in the relationship. As I often quote from Dr David Pelcovitz: “to be happily married you don’t have to think alike, but you do have to be able to think together.”

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